Coachella (Woodstock on my Mind)

Lana has been gently dropping songs before the release of her next album. Having a lil listen and I love this one the most so far:

 

What about all these children
And all their children’s children
And why am I even wondering that today
Maybe my contribution
Could be as small as hoping
That words could turn to birds and birds would send my thoughts your way

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I’d give it all away if you give me just one day to ask him one question

On the 8th June 2017

Hello, dearest readers!

I’m SO HAPPY. Finished my finals yesterday and stayed up all night watching the Tories being torn to pieces while drunk. I lost my phone, my debit card, and my student card, but it’s so hard to care after all this good news. Guess I’ll just stop calling people and buying things… I could wax lyrical about why this is great and what a triumph it feels like from my perspective, but words are not coming easily to my tender brain this evening so instead here’s a recording of music that never fails to bring me joy when I listen to it:

 

Without You for me is more about self reliance than co dependence, and it’s one of my favourite songs in the world. I hope you like it too.

 

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On music as therapy

Dear readers,

I have just come across a lot of kind messages about my blog (especially the one about social media and self esteem) that I didn’t know I had received until about five minutes ago. Thanks all for your kind words, I appreciate positive feedback hugely, as I don’t particularly expect people to read my stuff! This is a repost of a piece of writing I wrote in April but given recent events I think music is more important than ever. Love, A x

 

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I did not have a huge variety of music played in my house when I was growing up. It was mostly classical: my father is a talented pianist and has been playing ever since I can remember, he himself falling in love with Chopin and Beethoven at a young age. I used to take the piss out of him for listening to recordings of HIS OWN piano playing in the car, but now I totally understand that impulse; how lovely to listen to recordings of your own take on somebody else’s beloved work of art, a moment otherwise exclusively irretrievable through memory, something that fades over time?

 

I enjoyed classical music as a child, but the first time I remember feeling profoundly moved was when I listened to Dido’s album No Angel. I was five or six; Dido worked in my father’s office so my mum said that it was only fair we give her album a listen. I listened to that album, and Life for Rent, into my early teens; and even now for me they capture an innocent longing. I had the dimmest sense of what love and heartbreak were, but even then, my heart swelled with emotion at certain lyrics. These lyrics from her song Life for Rent were the ones I sang to myself most often when I was little:

 

I haven’t ever really found a place that I call home

I never stick around quite long enough to make it

I apologize once again I’m not in love

But it’s not as if I mind

that your heart ain’t exactly breaking

 

It’s just a thought, only a thought

 

But if my life is for rent and I don’t learn to buy

Well I deserve nothing more than I get

Cos nothing I have is truly mine

 

Looking back, It figures that as a child I sought this freedom, this independence: yes mum and dad were always right, and I shouldn’t cross roads without them or eat tooooo much cake, but the longing for personal autonomy is something that I feel is natural to us even at a young age. Thence Dido.

 

But possibly the most important musical epiphany I had was this one. I was in the car, driving up and down some hills in the Brecon Beacons with my mum and my dad and my sister, listening through my headphones to Bulletproof Heart. I felt the warmth of elation in my veins as I listened to the lyrics:

 

Gravity

Don’t mean too much to me

I’m who I’ve got to be

These pigs are after me, after you

Run away, like it was yesterday

And we could run away, if we could run away

Run away from here

I was 14. There was nothing in my life that I had a particular desire to flee from. Or was there?

 

I didn’t think about anything apart from My Chemical Romance for the entirety of the next two years. I wasn’t really interested in starting relationships with the young boys growing into men around me. I didn’t think deeply about my appearance, about what people thought of me, about sex, which seemed like a hazy but exciting promise waiting for me in my latter teenage years. Other musicians entranced me at this time, sure. The purity and honesty of Taylor Swift’s voice; Paramore, Green Day, Beyonce, Shakira, Eminem. But they were nothing on this band, who I felt I knew as deeply if not more deeply than the people around me.

 

Things changed for me a little bit when I managed to get my heart broken twice at sixteen when I had finished my GCSE’s and I spending the summer with the friends from school who I had had for five years. Yes it hurt, like fuck. I’m not gonna pretend there wasn’t a lot of crying. I’m not gonna pretend I didn’t focus on all of the things I thought were wrong with my mind and with my body for the next five years and, on some level, blame the failures of every romance and relationship I embarked on upon them. There was a lot of loss, that summer, and in the next two years. But during that time, and for years to come, the following lyrics from My Chemical Romance’s 2007 song Cancer constituted the catharsis I needed:

 

Turn away

If you could get me a drink of water

Cause my lips are chapped and faded

Call my Aunt Marie

Help her gather up my things and bury me

With all my favourite colours,

My sisters and my brothers still

I will not kiss you

Cause the hardest part of this is leaving you

 

The you here was at once my beloved school, myself, every one of my closest girlfriends, and the boy who had broken my heart in the knowledge that I would be moving to another school, so he would not have to face public scrutiny for whatever he did. He was involved with someone else at the time. Looking back, he knew me to an exceptionally superficial degree, and I him. I hadn’t given any of my precious self away, or received any of his, so the healing has taken a while but I got over it fairly quickly.

 

I remember thinking, mere hours after having my heart broken, listening to music alone, that nothing could truly harm me if I always had my music to soothe me and express the anger and hurt I felt in a nonviolent way. Yes I was angry. But I had no blueprint for the expression of anger that could be damaging to other people; it bled out safely through my headphones, when I was alone, or dancing around in my friends, or at the top of the 210 on the way up to the places where I spent my teenage years.

 

My Chemical Romance broke up on March 23rd, 2013. I cried solidly for six hours. I’d loved every song on every one of their four albums and the knowledge that the people I felt so close to had decided that they needed not to make music anymore broke my heart more deeply than any breakup I’d had up until that point. I still think of that awful rainy day as the end of my childhood.

 

But somewhere I understood. If they no longer wanted to make music as a group, it didn’t feel true to them, they had every right to withdraw, every right to end that artistic union. That was special about MCR was that when you listen to the music you can feel how deeply they have all been in pain and the strength with which they have fought and are fighting that, and learn something yourself about the sheer strength you get through suffering.

 

As I get older, I feel more and more resistant to the term ‘pop music.’ Pop – short for popular – comes from the Latin populus, meaning simply ‘the people’, as opposed to the non-elite. At its root meaning, all it means is the music of the people. Something to embrace, rather than something to look down upon. I think the difference between, say, the supposedly ‘popular’ Taylor Swift’s earliest albums and MCR is simply the nuance of emotion.

 

We hear millions of lovesongs and breakup songs. Yeah okay, love is painful and hard and you’re always afraid of losing it. I have needed these songs very badly in my time. But I have also needed to feel anger, sadness, envy, resentment, joy, fear, in all their different and infinite combinations, and that’s what MCR gave me, and that’s what I take from Frank Turner, Lana Del Rey, Laura Marling, Johnny Flynn, Bon Iver, Jeff Buckley, Frank Sinatra, Nina Simone, Ella Fitzgerald, Vivaldi, Chopin, Debussy and even the genuinely glorious and life affirming piece of art that is the La La Land soundtrack. Part of me is always gently pissed off when someone comments on my musical choices with anything but absolute respect. I think it’s clear why. Own what you love. My Chemical Romance was never cool. That’s what made it so cool.

Without You & Knocking on Heaven’s Door

 

 

Hello dear readers. I am sorry it has been a while; I have now done three finals out of four, but I am really struggling to focus on Classics this week when it seems there is so much conflict spiralling out of control in the world around me. I was babysitting my baby cousin on Saturday night not far from my home in London when the terrorist attacks hit London Bridge, Vauxhall and Borough Market. My parents were out, at a party with my aunt and uncle; my sister and I had a painful half an hour waiting for them to text us back and confirm that they were all right. I went back to London for safety and a bit of peace; I have never felt so vulnerable inside my own home, and so worried for everyone I know and love.

Music is the one thing that, without fail, relieves and expresses my anxiety about the vulnerability to disaster of the people around me and the beautiful world I find myself in. I have grown up never for a second doubting that I am fundamentally safe, and violent conflict has until the last few years seemed as distant as it could seem to anyone; that is no longer the case. I hate violence, and I am gently coming to terms with the fear I have been made to feel. I have no answers, but this recording of Without You (which transforms into Knocking on Heaven’s Door) is proving a good salve for worry at the moment. Beaming love; look after each other.

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Come Home (Cardinal Pell)

Angry with the establishment? [Read: angry with the Tories?]

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But your ethical hypocrisy
Your intellectual vacuity
And your arrogance don’t bother me as much
As the fact that you have turned out to be such
A goddamn coward

You’re a coward, Georgie
(You’re a coward, George)
Come and face the music, Georgie
(Face the music, George)

You owe it to the victims, Georgie
(You owe it, George)
Come and face the music, the music
Hallelujah, hallelujah